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Define Your Lifestyle

In this post, I’m gonna share with you guys just how to define your lifestyle and the many benefits!  I think we all can get so inspired by what our eyes are attracted to in other people’s lives: their bodies, their homes, their fashion flair, their personality/mannerisms, even–but I always aim to encourage people to find their AUTHENTIC style for life.

For example, growing up, I was the cute girl that wasn’t girlie, lol.  A tomboy that loved a fresh pair of sneaks– but my mama definitely made sure I still knew how to walk in heels, lol. So I was versatile–but the heart of me, preferred street styles.  I went off to high school & college and my little circle of influence got super wide, super quickly!  I was told I was “too pretty” to be wearing those sneakers, and could look so much better if I wore this color, or these shoes, or this really short skirt, lol.  So, I tried it!  And you know what, it was ok. I mean, I do enjoy a nice pair of heels, I am aware of my femininity, and I do like to switch things up sometimes.

But fast forward, over 10 years later.  I’m now an older woman, fully confident of who I am, and what I’m about.  #jesustaughtme .

And you know what happened?  I wear sneakers almost every single day!  Pretty much, I reverted back to what was the REAL me.

I think with age, and letting God show you yourself–free from social influence, we start to see that we’ve had glimpses of our authentic self our whole lives.

The Style of My Life

I call my style more tomboy chic, because I do wear feminine things when I’m feeling it,  but I make it fit around my core style.  My color palette is black, white, and neutrals.  Basically,  I have a minimalistic approach to my home, and I know exactly how I like my makeup.  This is the style of my life!

Now, before it sounds like I got my life together:  I dont, lol, and I must admit:  It took me up until this year to find my (life)style!  So if you haven’t, don’t be discouraged. It takes a whole lot of trial & error, reflection, and just plain ole’ patience to figure it out.

But once you do, life in every way will get a wee bit simpler, because you’ll know where you stand on almost anything concerning your image & life preferences. The simplicity alone will help you commit to it, because, well, who doesn’t like things not being so hard?! You can do it! And I think I can help:-)

Steps on HOW to Define Your LifeStyle


Okay, this is big one.  What colors do you gravitate towards the most?  Which colors make you feel both powerful and confident?  I knew it was the neutrals palette for me–predominantly black, because black fits my personality.

Black is subtle, and understated, yet always makes a splash:-)

It’s both seen and unseen, it’s cool and low key, but still is taken seriously.  What colors reflect your personality?

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power colors


When I discovered my style in wardrobe & color palette, I went through my closet & tossed EVERYTHING that didn’t fit it.  I was bout that life! lol.  The thing is, you want to feel as amazing as possible every day, so go through your stuff, and purge it of stuff that doesn’t fit this new goal!  You shouldn’t just feel okay about your image!  Love the visual you put forth into the world, by making it subject to the style you’ve determined will help you do just that!  Watch my Youtube Video that explores this tip and others like it, Here!

BONUS: I only buy new things that fit my lifestyle as well!  No “maybe, it can go with this?” , or “It might look better with that?”, no, my goal is to: LOVE everything I purchase.  Now this means you may buy things less frequently, but why be a collector of stuff you’re just ok with anyway?

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This is in reference to your home.  I mentioned adopting a minimalistic life approach, and can I tell you, it’s been so dope!  My color palette is the same in my home as my wardrobe–black/white/neutrals–but heavy on the white.  It just gives me so much peace.

Figure out what kind of environment makes you feel good at home?  Is it a lot of candles? Is it a lot of plants?  Maybe a certain feel of rug you need to have in every room to feel comfortable? Whatever it is, get into more of that!

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Numerous studies prove that having a clean home, promotes peace and more productivity.  I was fortunately raised to be very cleanly, so this has always been in me, but if you have a history of, idk, “letting it all hang out” around your crib, stop that! lol.

Seriously, try decluttering your space, and having a bit more open air in your rooms. Defining a clean, bright, warm area for your lifestyle (home space) will help you get more done faster & easier! This will work wonders for your focus, peace, and all around quality of life at  home.

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In terms of hair & makeup–what look can you pull off that’s literally effortless? What looks can you do, where you know you’re not being too “try hardy“, you’re just, doing you? Somewhere in this world, is your go to look.  Play around with it, and experiment.  Wear it everyday for a week, and pay attention to how you feel.

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Coming right in from the last point–listen to the people about this experiment!  I don’t usually advise caring about what people say, lol, but in this case, we’re working on something, so it’s alright, lol.  When you do that effortless look for a week straight, what are the people saying? Are they here for it?!  Or better yet:

think of a look that you’ve always gotten compliments on, since like, forever! Go into this look, and see how to make it fit you now?

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Are You Ready?

Okay loves, these were 6 super easy and basic tips to discover your authentic lifestyle!  In conclusion, I really hope they were helpful to you, and and that you try them out! There’s nothing like feeling that extra bit of freedom every day, being confident in your image, and how you live your life.

Your lifestyle is a reflection of you–whether it’s your fashion, makeup/hair, or even home details. So take the time to actually get to know you, when defining all the details of those things.  Don’t let it be over influenced by someone else’s style, NOBODY, can do it like you:-)

Until next time, bye lovaas💋


Hi, I'm Alexis 💁🏾, I've been rich since 86, when I was fearfully and wonderfully made. A free spirited fitness geek, and a professional makeup artist. I'm a born and raised southern girl, living in the big apple and traveling the world. An old soul, with a lotta love to give. Here, is where I express it💜 Follow along for my adventures in the worlds of beauty, fitness, and living a Christ centered life.

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