Womanhood vs. Biblical Womanhood

I don’t know about you guys, but I’m growing kinda tired of everyone having an opinion about womanhood.  And if I’m honest, the biggest mouths going off about it, usually aren’t belonging to an actual woman, lol!  Well, today, I’m going to explore what womanhood is in my humble opinions, based off of the original woman definer being, lol, (totally just made that up).    Let’s compare 1st what womanhood is from the viewpoint of the Bible, versus that of society.

What’s the Difference?

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The reason knowing the difference between womanhood and biblical womanhood is important, is because so often cultural influences blur the lines.  When in reality, there are lines drawn in the sand as to what a woman of God and a woman of the world looks like.  A woman of God encounters the same life experiences as a woman of the world.  The difference is how she responds.  She responds with obedience to the Scripture, letting it be the final authority of everything in her life.

A woman of the world responds to life and it’s rollercoaster rides according to how she “feels”.  Well, seeing how feelings change from 1 day to the next, that’s not a good compass to follow at all!  We must strive to be women of the Word–allowing God to lead us into making decisions that honor Him and prove our faith.  It’s not easy, and we won’t get it right completely, but we can endure this journey together!

5 Lies Women Believe About Womanhood

Don’t fall for the hype!  Stay strapped!!! Meditate on this popular verse for a few minutes before you continue:

Proverbs 31:30-31New International Version (NIV)

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Your value is determined by your level of beauty.

This lie is probably the easiest to spot.  Somehow, society has managed to make us all believe there is 1 definition of beautiful.  Now, this lie is so sneaky, because the definition often changes.  The media decides which celebrity figure to begin throwing  in our faces day in and day out.  Naturally, the masses will see said figure’s traits as the most desireable of our time, I mean, this woman is EVERYWHERE, she must be the prototype, right?  Wrong.

Because this celebrity figure’s time will one day be up, her physical traits will one day be up as well.  Meaning if she had huge, inflated lips from lip fillers, and she’s not what’s in anymore–most likely the lips thing won’t be either.  She will be quickly replaced by whomever is the newest, most interesting personality to hit the wave.  And, like the figure before here, the media will make sure we see her traits–even if they are POLOR OPPOSITES from the ones of last season–as the most sought after traits we’ve ever seen!  Gasp!  The betrayal?!  It’s real girl, but don’t worry, I have some advice:-)

You see, we cannot abide in the ideology that there is 1 standard of beauty.  God made a ton of people different, ON PURPOSE.  I hate to sound rude, but if I’m being real (which I like to be, lol), we’re all starting to look alike, and not in a good way.  I mean, the lip fillers, fake booties, “baddie” makeup, and fashion nova apparel, ya’ll, we look like zombies!  Wake up!

The Beauty of Being Different

There is absolutely nothing wrong with looking different.  When I see someone on Youtube that looks different, I smile.  It doesn’t matter if society thinks you’re technically, “beautiful”, you have to know that you’re made in the image of the Almighty God!  When I started my Youtube channel, my main objective as far as makeup videos, was to showcase NATURAL makeup.  Why?  Because I can count on 1 hand how many channel do that.  Almost every channel I see has tutorials of the same old thick blocked brows, overly light or overly glittery  highlighter, scary contour, and long fake lashes. Can’t forget the silicone lips.  It’s just enough already.

If you have serious insecurities about your looks–THAT IS NORMAL!  I’m in no way saying we should all just love every nook and cranny of our faces.  What I AM saying is that there’s a certain level of humility and true love for God, to take those insecurities to Him, ask Him what to do with them, and to show you how to love yourself.  Ask Him to show you yourself, how HE SEES YOU.

As corny as this sounds, I wouldn’t dare tell you it, if I hadn’t done it myself.  Can I tell ya’ll something? I’m not the most secure person.  A few years ago, I had a HUGE insecurity about my boobs and various dental problems.  Both were, at the time, beyond my control.  I took all my tears, whining, and comparison games to the Lord and said, “Please show me how me, how you see me!”  Hold onto this verse guys, and pray that the Lord will teach you the fullness of its meaning:

1 Peter 3:3-4New International Version (NIV)

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

If the “love” isn’t complicated, it isn’t real.

Television has warped our understanding of what real love is.   Watching the cult classic films where the storyline goes something like:

guy finds perfect girl…guy ruins it with cheating or some other form of abuse…girl is heartbroken….guys begs and pleads…girl comes back and true love wins!

Ummmm, yea, no.  While, that could very well be someone’s love story–that’s not the formula.  TV has people out here thinking love has to hurt to turn out right.  Like, I’ve noticed that people are truly fascinated with being a “ride or die”.  I see women enduring the pain of someone offering them dysfunction and calling it love.  It adds this glamorization of their  “love story”, allowing them to be able to say, “look at what all we’ve been through!”  “We’ll surely live happily ever after, because I stayed through this, this, AND this”.  Well, you be that ride or die, but I’m not going for it.

In the eyes of the Lord, either you’re married, or you’re single. Period.  All this girlfriend/boyfriend drama that we participate in, isn’t even worthy of our time!  I’m all for fighting for a MARRIAGE, but if you’re showing signs that you don’t know how to love from a place of purity, only from a place of worldly lusts and influence, I’m not riding anywhere, and definitely not dying, lol!

Trust me when I tell you, that in order for  a man to properly love you, he has to be taught what true love is from GOD, not TV, rappers, or old school R&B.  God IS love, and without Him showing men how to love women, they’re just operating from flesh, which can love you one day, and leave you the next!

Our identities have to be found in SOMETHING.

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I’ve noticed that we women tend to have this inability to let our identity be found in Christ.  We need to feel as though who we are is rooted in something.  A few are:

  • our marriages, enter the wives who are killing the game by being the model partner.  Every other sentence involves their hubby and how they’re “complete” now that they have him!  
  • our careers, cue the #girlboss anthem, for the women who ain’t got time for a man, cuz they’re stacking that bread and leading all the business meetings
  • or looks, usher in my sisters who are addicted to social media, because they NEED to see the likes, to get their dose of validation for the day
  • our children; here lies the women who never really cultivated their gifts, before the babies came, and now they’ve managed to idolize these little humans!

Now, I’m aware that my delivery of those things may have been a little rough, but it’s the truth sis!  NONE of those things are bad in and of themselves–marriage was 1 of God’s 1’s covenants, having a career is so fulfilling, beauty is called a gift in the Bible, and our children are literal BLESSINGS from God.  But using these things to fulfill our empty voids and give us an identity is not wise.

At any given moment, these things can be taken away from you.  Your husband will disappoint you, your looks will fade, and your career could plummet overnight.  The ONLY way to securely know who we are as biblical women, is to look to the Bible.  To read it’s words and pray for understanding of how it’s describing our roles as women in this world.  Here are some great scriptures to mediate on, and ask God to reveal your true identity from:

Being promiscuous is a display of freedom and equality.

To begin with, I pray that you guys can discern my sincerity with this topic, because I truly believe the enemy has planted a very powerful seed with this lie.  Being promiscuous as a woman, created in the image of God is not freedom, it’s in fact bondage.  You are a slave to your flesh, and you do whatever it says to do, versus what God says is best for you.

You will never be “equal” with a man, and you shouldn’t want to be.  God created men to be men, and women to be women, why desire to be viewed on the same level of something you’re not?  I started a WONDERFUL series I coined, The Unnatural Series, over on my Youtube, an the 1st topic was self-discipline.  I talk about the slavery of not being disciplined and how to get free in Jesus, click here if you want to see it, it’s so good, ya’ll!

Similarly, I really hate to see my sisters participate in things like “slutwalks” and say things that show the fruit of a person so obviously lost and spiritually bound.  This truly BREAKS MY HEART ya’ll.  The foundation of movements like this are not at all about living in some version of “freedom”, it’s about indulgence, and wanting to do so without shame or being convicted of making poor decisions.

God says that our bodies are so precious to Him!  How we treat our temple, reveals how we truly feel about ourselves!  You are worth SO much more than living a life solely to please your flesh, that will one day perish on this Earth!

1 Corinthians 6:19-20New International Version (NIV)

19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

 Biblical womanhood is for doormats and wimps.

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Somewhere along the way, saying you are a woman of God, and truly living this truth, became viewed as weak!  For example, the onslaught of the feminist movement contributed greatly to this ideology.  Moreover, the leaders of the feminist movement were put catapulted into the spotlight, when the movement really took off.  Not very many of them claimed to be Christians, and spoke of things very opposite the Bible–independence, sexual freedom, and female dominance.  The world was now seeing women who exuded a very tough and almost masculine sort of strength. This became “empowerment”, and all women wanted to be this strong and bold!  Women wanted to feel this perceived power these feminists had.

Well, the Bible calls women to be the opposite of most feminist beliefs. Therefore, anyone who goes against these powerful women must be the opposite of them.  Right?   I mean, women who follow the Bible must be weak, old fashioned, soft, and naive, if they’re not feminists, right?  Wrong.

Women who adhere to biblical womanhood are some the most powerful, passionate, strong, and capable women I know.  These ladies are about that life, do you hear me?!  They’re fully able to not only cover their household in bold words of prayer and supplication before God, but also run businesses from home, minister in their church and community, AND provide that soft and gentle spirit to her husband that reminds him of the goodness of God.  I’m telling ya’ll a woman of the word is BADDD ya’ll!  Don’t believe me? Read this:

Proverbs 31: 11-31 (snippets below)

Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
ers of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;

Here’s The Truth: Society Can’t Define You, But You Can’t Either

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No well decorated public speaker can tell you what kind of woman you are to be, anymore than a model wife telling you everything you need to get ready for marriage.  You see, while both of these women DO possess wisdom that can indeed help you–you have to know that this information cannot form your identify.  The essence of who you are is not rooted in your career,  education, success, marriage, or even your own limited knowledge about yourself!

You Can Only Know Who You Are, By Knowing WHOSE You are

That’s right, even YOU don’t really know you, like God does, lol.  Like all those times you REALLY thought you weren’t gonna do that thing again, but when you did it, and God looked out for you anyway and even taught you a big lesson in His grace.  Because He knew you were gonna do it again!  God created us, He knows our in and out, our coming & going, our public wins and private failures.  And because He knows us this well, we have to trust in Him alone to tell us who we are, not our she-roes, not society, not even our church leaders.  We have to go to God ourselves and ask Him to show us ourselves, so we can serve Him in fullness!

How To Let God Mold You Into the “Perfect” Woman

Jeremiah 1:5New King James Version (NKJV)

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you;
Before you were born I sanctified you;

There is no such thing as the perfect woman.  Once you nail one aspect of womanhood, you’re sure to be lacking in another.  Plus, we’ll never be able to please EVERYONE anyway, so let’s vow to stop trying!  Let’s live to please one person, and one person only, God Almighty.  Who else can put up with our mess, and love us the same?  Who else is worthy of such devotion, because He’s faithful to us everyday?

God Will Never Leave You

You know that sucky feeling when you disappoint someone and you just know they’re not gonna have anything else to do with you? No? Me neither, lol.  Well, we certainly can experience remorse before the Lord, but here’s what’s different about God: we never have to worry about Him not wanting to deal with us again.

We can go before Him imperfect, we don’t have to strive, and throw our perfect marriages at Him or our resume of accomplishments–we can go before Him BARE, and trust that He still sees us just as valuable.

Honestly, God sees us as more valuable than the world ever could–because He alone knows who we REALLY ARE.  The world knows the version that we give it, God sees the real.

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So let the Lord mold you into a better you!  Take to Him all your insecurities, secret lusts and struggles in your flesh, and all your pride hidden in your boastings.  Lay them all on the alter, and ask Him to forgive you, show you who you’re truly meant to be for Him, and how to get started.  I trust Him to guide you into all truth!

I’ve loved every minute of sharing this post and my heart with you guys:-) Thank you for reading and supporting this blog!  Please share it on your socials, so others can be blessed!  I pray your week is AMAZING, and I look forward to next week’s blog and chatting with you in the comments!   Until then, bye loves!   💋

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